I get questions often from women who are trying to diagnose their partner with avoidant attachment as a way to make sense of the strange behaviour they are experiencing. In this episode, I want to clarify the difference between the two.
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New Monday quickie episodes! In these quick episodes (under 10 minutes) I'll be shining light on one specific behavior, trait, tactic, or phrase you'll hear from a narcissistic partner.
I love piecing together themes and patterns I see with women who are in my programs, and in these quick but mighty episodes, I'll be bringing these insights to you so that you can awaken and evolve beyond the cycle.
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New Monday quickie episodes! In these quick episodes I'll be shining light on one specific behavior, trait, tactic, or phrase you'll hear from a narcissistic partner.
I love piecing together themes and patterns I see with women who are in my programs, and in these quick but mighty episodes, I'll be bringing these insights to you so that you can awaken and evolve beyond the cycle!
Follow @awakeningwomensupport on Instagram and Facebook
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Covert abusers are not any less dangerous than the more obvious abusers. In fact, they're even more dangerous because the abuse is happening in plain sight while nobody else sees it.
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New Monday quickie episodes! In these quick episodes (under 10 minutes) I'll be shining light on one specific behavior, trait, tactic, or phrase you'll hear from a narcissistic partner.
I love piecing together themes and patterns I see with women who are in my programs, and in these quick but mighty episodes, I'll be bringing these insights to you so that you can awaken and evolve beyond the cycle.
Follow @awakeningwomensupport on Instagram and Facebook
Join the February 30 Day End The Cycle Intensive
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Join my 6-month in-depth coaching and mentorship program, End The Cycle Evolve: leanneoaten.com/evolve
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By purchasing courses and joining the ETCE mentoring program, or other products you’re making it possible for weekly podcast episodes to continue. Thank you so much for your support.
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This episode is not meant to diagnose your partner, however, if you can check off 1 or more of these burning red flags as a consistent, repetitive pattern of behavior over time with your partner, you can be sure he falls somewhere on the spectrum of narcissism or could possibly have NPD.
The key here is that this is a pervasive and continual and predictable pattern of behavior, not occasional errors or 'narcissistic moments'.
If you're questioning if he's a narcissist, or if you're actually being abused, this episode is intended to help you stop questioning, and start taking empowered action toward what's next.
The longer you continue in the cycle as it is, the more damage occurs to your mental and physical health.
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When you start to see the tactics and pull away from the relationship, begin to leave, or actually leave, get ready for some new tactics toward your children shared with this person to escalate.
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This episode has a trigger warning. We are discussing sensitive topics including childhood sexual abuse.
If you're experiencing sexual coercion in your relationship, and feel pressure, followed by poor treatment if you don't engage sexually with your partner, this episode is for you.
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A common abuse tactic that is very difficult to spot is a partner who is continuing to behave abusively trying to force you to move past it and let it go. His sense of entitlement to unearned forgiveness can leave you feeling extremely frustrated and wondering why you can't just 'forgive'. Learn why this is not possible in this episode.
The episode on why therapy is not recommended in abusive relationships:
Why Therapy Doesn't Work in Abusive Relationship
Ways to work with me:
February 2022: End The Cycle 30 Day Intensive. Limited spots available. This is the ETC process taught week by week as a guided experience. Includes a Facebook group, community support, and group coaching/ Q & A call at the end of the program. Register to save your spot here.
(*January was mentioned in this episode, however, it has been postponed until February)
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In this episode learn why too much empathy can keep us stuck in situations that are toxic for us, and how to start balancing empathy with boundaries and logic.
Ways to work with me:
February 2022: End The Cycle 30 Day Intensive. Limited spots available.
This is the ETC process taught week by week as a guided experience. Includes a Facebook group, community support, and group coaching/ Q & A call at the end of the program. Register to save your spot here. *January was mentioned in this episode, however, it has been postponed until February
Considering joining my 6 Month ETC-Evolve program?
Start with the Pain to Power Bootcamp. After you take the bootcamp you’ll be invited to join the program. REGISTER HERE.
Want to take more of my classes and hear recordings of past seminars I’ve taught my ETC students? Start with the Awakening Women Masterclass + MP3 Collection
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*Note: I have changed the ETC intensive to start on February 6th but mentioned January on the podcast.
Most women in a relationship experiencing narcissistic abuse can attest to feeling confused by their partner's sometimes wonderful behavior. Because they can sometimes do nice things and behave with acts of love, women stay in self-doubt about whether the relationship really is abusive, or if it's just something wrong with them.
Tune in to learn why the nice/mean behavior is the hallmark of abuse, and rest assured, your confusion is a normal response to these unpredictable behaviors.
Are you doing more work to get your partner to change than he's doing to change? This includes emotional work, ruminating, thinking about the relationship, worrying about the relationship, trying to find help and resources, sending your partner links and blogs to read when he is doing nothing to take leadership on his own.
It won't work.
In order to truly change we have to want to change who we are and be 100% committed to the process to make those changes happen.
Let's talk about covert abuse as I define it: A repetitive pattern of hurtful behaviour that is explained away with "You took it wrong" or "I didn't mean it that way" which leaves you questioning yourself and frankly, feeling like you ARE going crazy.
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In this episode, Leanne covers 12 ways to know if you're with a covert abuser who likes to be known as a "good guy".
If you find yourself often feeling badly around your partner, yet everyone else thinks he's so wonderful, this episode is for you!
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In this episode, we're talking about 5 phrases you may hear often from your narcissistic partner, and not realize is a form of gaslighting.
Gaslighting is a pattern of emotionally abusive behavior that is primarily seen in pathological personality disorders like high narcissism and NPD. It is a pattern of behavior, not one-off misunderstandings or genuine incidents of forgetfulness.
Join me for another 'walk with me' episode and learn why being too much in your feminine, empathic, emotional energy is keeping you stuck in a toxic dynamic, and what you need to do to balance your 'feeling' side with your logical, decisive side to change your relationship dance. We all need a healthy level of narcissism to be successful in life, and most women in narcissistic relationships fall on the extreme low- end of the spectrum with something Craig Maklin calls "echoism". So, maybe you need to be more narcissistic!
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If money is a barrier for you to getting to a healthier place, or possibly leaving the relationship, this is the episode for you. This is a real talk edition where I am calling you in to rise up to your full power in the area of money and finances.
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This is a walking unedited episode where I'm speaking to you from flow as I walk in nature with my dogs. This message is for the woman who is DONE with her current way of being and is ready for real change.
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This is something I hear about often from women I work with, that their partner is in therapy and comes home to share things the therapist said in order to cause triangulation.
Beware of this maneuver, and when he says "my therapist said YOU sound like a narcissist!"
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After an argument or conflict, your partner is able to move on and forget about it while you are stuck stewing and seething over the whole thing. Then you are told you need to 'get over it' by your partner, and yet, you can't seem to just let it go. Why is this?
Press play on this episode for why this happens and what needs to happen to truly move past conflicts or emotionally hurtful or abusive incidents.
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If I could speak in front of all the women in the world who are living in narcissistic abuse dynamics, this is what I would tell them NOT to do.
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Welcome to season 3 of the AW Podcast!
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