When we stop voicing our opinions, what we want, and how we feel we erode the excitement, passion and joy that comes from honoring each persons individuality in relationship. We also need to learn to stop pleasing the other, while squashing our own voice, desires and feelings. An empowered, vital and awakened marriage creates space for each person to express themselves, and each person is empowered enough to speak up, even if it does make waves, or creates conflict.